Forget-Me-Not: Spiritual Connection Transcends Separation

Forget-Me-Not: Spiritual Connection Transcends Separation

by Richard Katz

It is spring at Terra Flora and the Forget-Me-Not flowers have created a blue carpet in our fields.

Forget-Me-Not reminds us of our spiritual connection with loved ones who have passed through the portal of death and are no longer with us in this physical realm. I was inspired to create a Forget-Me-Not video tribute to my mother, who passed last year, realizing that this message may be a healing balm to others who have been separated from a loved one by death.

Forget-Me-Not Lore

It is interesting to note how much folklore about Forget-Me-Not, even its name, evokes the qualities manifest in the flower essence.

The common name of Forget-Me-Not, from the French ne m’oubliez pas,  has its origin in many folkloric understandings of this flower. In one legend, the Jesus child was sitting on Mary’s lap one day and said that he wished that future generations could see her eyes. He touched her eyes and then waved his hand over the ground and blue forget-me-nots appeared. Hence, one of the names of the flower is “blue eyes of Mary.” A medieval German legend describes a knight and his lady were walking along the side of a river. He picked a posy of flowers, but because of the weight of his armor he fell into the river. As he was drowning, he threw the posy to his loved one and shouted “Forget-me-not!”  (‘Vergiss mein nicht!”)

The Forget-Me-Not has been adopted as a symbol of remembrance for many centuries. Six centuries ago, Henry IV of England adopted the flower as his symbol during his exile. In medieval Germany, it was worn as a symbol of faithfulness among lovers. In the twentieth century, Newfoundland adapted the forget-me-not in remembrance of their war dead, and the Freemasons used forget-me-not to remember those victimized by the Nazis.

Wilhelm Pelikan, in his book Healing Plants (Heilpflanzenkunde), writes about a related species, the Field Forget-Me-Not Myosotis arvensis, “How we loved them as children, linking this feeling with the heavenly home we had left behind, which all too soon fades from memory as we grow up.”

Borage Family Flower Essences

We can understand the flower essence qualities of Forget-Me-Not if we think of some other Borage Family (Boraginaceae) flower essences, as all of these essences deal with the polarity of weight and upliftment (gravity and levity). 

With Hound’s Tongue, we confront the weight of materialistic thinking, which separates us from our own spirituality, as well as from the vast spiritual world and the many spiritual beings who long to help us. We become, in Rudolf Steiner’s words, a “world-hermit,” cut off from the wider world.

With Borage, we feel the weight of depression and grief, especially in the region of the heart and lungs, often expressing itself as a caved chest and melancholy air. Such expressions as feeling “dis-heartened” or “dis-couraged” reflect the Borage challenge. Borage is often given for grief, to bring emotional buoyancy and uplifting courage to resume one’s zest for life after a loss.

Forget-Me-Not is the culminating essence in the series, to open us to the spiritual reality that transcends physical loss. It is not a denial of the pain of physical separation, but rather a further step that allows us to feel nourished by bonds of love that transcend death.

A Forget-Me-Not Testimonial

The following testimonial illustrates the soul healing power of Forget-Me-Not:

“For several years I suffered from a depression I could not name. I felt empty, hollow. Sleepless nights and poor appetite….. My mother died suddenly when I was on an international trip. I could not be there to help with her passing, and to say all the things that were on my heart. A vague aching pain haunted me and tainted all joy and happiness. I was being treated for depression with Zoloft, etc. Nothing helped. When I began taking flower essences, but especially Forget-Me-Not, a light entered that simply had not been there. To begin with, I began recalling amazing memories of my mother – a picnic at the beach, her brushing my hair under the light of the full moon, singing a lullaby to me as I fell asleep….. One night, in the middle of the night, I had the compulsion (if you want to call it that) to write her a letter. I got up. I wrote for several hours, all the things on my heart, often my tears flowing. Then I began to feel a peace, an immeasurable sense of presence. As though my mother’s soul was with me – telling me it was all going to be ok. She was still at my side and always would be. From that day forward my depression lifted, never to come again.”

Further information

Please read these articles about Forget-Me-Not, one by the Brazilian flower essence practitioner and teacher, Rosana Souto, and the other by one of her students:  

You can order the Forget-Me-Not flower essence here:

And please enjoy my Forget-Me-Not video tribute:

This Post Has 6 Comments

  1. Herbert Thelesklaf

    Dear Richard,
    thank you for for your Video,
    Herbert Thelesklaf

  2. Barbara Knight Katz

    Richard, Your Forget-me-not video is beautiful. It warms my heart and lifts my spirit. It is a lovely tribute to your mother and also informative about the fascinating “history” of the forget-me-not as well as telling of its healing properties.
    Barbara K.

  3. Sue O'Leary

    This came five months to the day of losing my partner and has helped immensely.. Thank you for sharing…

  4. Suzanne Walker

    That is a truly beautiful tribute. It was very touching that it as to your mother. The images of the Touch-Me-Not that you were actually sitting in!- were so beautiful. Everything you wrote or said brought this flower alive to me. I used to think of it as an invasive weed (well it can be) but that would be to forget…forget!…its mission, its spiritual purpose. Now I can feel that. THANK YOU.
    Sincerely, Suzanne Walker

  5. Megumi Iwasaki

    Dear Richard,

    I always read your blogs.
    I always now I am using Borage.

    Now, my heart doesn’t take it seriously.

    with love from Japan
    Practitioner Megumi Iwasaki.

  6. Claire Joysmith

    Love this tribute to the forget-me-not flower, to your mother, and to other extended lives that no longer are visible on this plane, but are still with our core. Thanks, Richard. Very heartening and uplifting in these times. Sending you both so much gratitude and love! Clarie Joysmith

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